Last week was the first in a series on bullying. Both subtle and overt forms of bullying occur every day in our schools that can have a devastating effect on our children. The first step in stopping this behavior is the school taking a stand, a “No Bullying” policy. This policy must then manifest itself into a belief that all members in the school, administrators, teachers, counselors, yard supervisors, student and parents, stand up and follow. At school, we frequently talk about bullying at our assemblies and in our classrooms so that children know what to do to protect themselves. If you have not heard your child talking about anti-bullying practices at school, it may be a good idea to speak with your child’s teacher and/or principal. Once you have discovered school policies, here are some strategies to teach your child when being bullied:
1. Stand up for yourself. Verbally express that you do not like what is happening. Using “I” statements are great, such as, “I feel ___ when you talk to me like that. Please don’t do it again.” Many young bullies will leave a child alone once he/she is stood up to by the child. Also, we as a society need to stand up to this poor behavior if it is to change. Far too many bullies have been allowed to hide, making the behavior seem acceptable. Encourage your child to come home from school and talk to you about it.
2. If it happens again, immediately have your child tell the teacher or a yard supervisor. Give an adult at school the opportunity to learn about the situation and make appropriate consequences. Again, encourage your child to tell you about it.
3. If the bullying behavior continues, set up an appointment to met with your child’s teacher. It is important that your child feel supported and safe throughout the process.
