by The Nancys
# 1 Build in “Do Not Disturb” Time
For thirty minutes each day, schedule time for no electronic interruptions. Don’t answer the telephone and don’t check or send email. For some of us “Crackberry” addicts, that can seem unimaginable, but you’ll find that even thirty minutes of uninterrupted time will enable you to accomplish more and feel less stressed.If you have little ones at home, try exchanging baby-sitting duties with a neighbor so that you can have thirty minutes to focus, without interruptions.
# 2 Be Here Now
Most busy women multi-task. Cleaning house while on the telephone and coaching the kids’ homework while preparing dinner. Try, instead, to be fully present while you do a single task. “Being here now,” fully aware of what you’re doing in the moment will quiet your mind and leave you more relaxed.
For example, while you’re chopping vegetables, allow your mind to drift. This brief mental vacation will recharge your batteries so that when you do work with the kids on their homework, you’ll feel less stressed and both you and the children will enjoy it more.
# 3 Manage Your “To Do” List
Each morning start your day by reviewing your “to do” list. Prioritize into “must do,” “nice to do” and “whenever I get to it.” If your “must dos” are more than you can manage in one day, consider alternatives. Can someone else take it on, or at least assist? Does it really have to be done today?
If an item has been languishing on your “when I get to it” list, take it off. Seeing it every day is just a reminder that will induce guilt and stress. When you’re really ready to do it, add it to the list and then just do it!
# 4 Re-examine Your Expectations
From the time we’re young, we’re programmed to do and be the best. Admirable, but very difficult to achieve. Yes, you want to be the best wife, best mother, best friend, best employee, best daughter, best housekeeper and the list goes on. Just for today, decide which aspect of your life needs the most attention and place your focus there.
Also, reexamine your “best of” list. Perhaps you shouldn’t attempt to be the “best housekeeper” and “best cook” while you have three kids under the age of five. For now, focus on being the best mom. Gourmet cooking and art on the walls that doesn’t involve crayons can come later.
# 5 Get Moving
Knowing you need to exercise more and not doing it doesn’t solve the problem and just increases your stress level. Instead, look at what you are doing and congratulate yourself. Holding a toddler on one hip while schlepping grocery bags? That counts as exercise!
Next, look for additional ways to add more calorie burning activities to your routine. Parking further away from your destination, ignoring elevators and taking the stairs, and going outside to play games instead of staying in are all ways to incorporate exercise in your day, while you reduce your stress level.
Tomorrow: Part 2!