10 Myths that Increase Stress: Part 1

 by The Nancys

Myth 1: Busy Women Don’t Have Time for Spontaneity
Most of us are ruled by calendars. It is rare to have a few hours, let alone a whole day, that is not booked solid. Who has time for spontaneous fun, we have got work to do and errands to run. We are scheduled and stressed to the max.

Not making time for spontaneity, though, can suck much of the joy out of your life. Carve out an hour on your calendar for spontaneity. When the time comes, get the family and do something just for fun. Whether it is something you love or something you have never tried before, laugh and enjoy the time. Some of the best times are the ones that are not planned.

Myth 2: Mom is Responsible for the House
Dad’s are responsible for working and mom’s are responsible for raising the kids and taking care of the house. That was true in 1950. In this century, most mom’s are working outside the home and yet still feel responsible for the cleaning, cooking, laundry and other chores required to keep a home running.

Have a family meeting and outline what chores need to be done. Agree on chore assignments and the fact that everyone who lives in the home is responsible for maintaining it. Then, let everyone share the load. Could you make your son’s bed more neatly than your 5 year old? Sure, but does it really matter? He’s learning responsibility and it is one less job for you. Relax.

Myth 3: If You’re Smiling Too Much, You Must Not Understand the Situation
When the going gets tough, the tough…don’t smile. The reality, though, is that when things are really tough, that is when we need laughter the most. Humor is remarkably effective at reducing stress and helping to keep things in perspective.

When comforting a friend who has been dealt a serious blow, do not focus on the problem, but talk about positive things. Use gentle humor to lighten the mood. Do the same for yourself when you are the one with problems. The sun really will come up tomorrow. No matter what the problem, you will cope better with a smile.

Myth 4: Thin Equals Happy
Many of us assume that thin equals healthy and happy. Many of us waste a lot of time and create a considerable stress in trying to attain the perfect size. The problem is that the perfect size that nature dictates may not match the perfect size displayed in magazine ads. Rather than stressing over the fact that you are not a size two, focus your efforts on maintaining your health and loving your body, whatever size it is.

Myth 5: If We Really Try, We Can Have It All
Some women believe they have it all, with marriage, children, perfect home and career. The one thing missing is the time to enjoy it. But they are spread so thin they do not have time to enjoy their lives.

Perhaps a smaller home and less focus on career can allow more time to enjoy what you are working for. It is a difficult balancing act, but can be managed, if you are clear on priorities and stick to focusing on what is most important.

Tomorrow: Part 2!